MsCarissia is on a "Course in Miracles" Journey 2012

Lesson 23 - A Course in Miracles

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"The idea for today contains the only way out of fear that will ever succeed. Nothing else will work; everything else is meaningless. But this way cannot fail. Every thought you have makes up some segment of the world you see. It is with your thoughts, then, that we must work, if your perception of the world is to be changed."

"The idea for today introduces the thought that you are not trapped in the world you see, because its cause can be changed. This change requires, first, that the cause be identified and then let go, so that it can be replaced."

Lesson 15 - "My thoughts are images that I have made."

2012-01-16T14:59:00.003-06:00

"My thoughts are images that I have made."

"It is because the thoughts you think you think appear as images that you do not recognize them as nothing. You think you think them, and so you think you see them. This is how your seeing was made.

This is the function you have given your body's eyes. It is not seeing. It is image making. It takes the place of seeing, replacing vision with illusions."

Lesson 14

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"God did not create a meaningless world."

"What God did not create does not exist. And everything that does exist exists as He created it. The world you see has nothing to do with reality. It is of your own making, and it does not exist."

Lesson 13

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Idea: A meaningless word engenders fear.

"Nothing without meaning exists. However, it does not follow that you will not think you perceive something that has no meaning.

Recognition of meaninglessness arouses intense anxiety in all separated ones. It represents a situation in which God and the ego "challenge" each other as to whose meaning is to be written in the empty space that meaninglessness provides. The ego rushes in frantically to establish its own ideas there, fearful that the void may otherwise be used to demonstrate its own impotence and unreality. And on this alone it is correct.

Lesson 12

2012-01-12T17:57:00.002-06:00

Concept: I am upset because I see a meaningless world.

Exercise: Look around slowly, shift glances from one thing to another ... what you see does not matter ... give all items equal value .....

"The importance of this idea lies in the fact that it contains a correction for a major perceptual distortion.

You think that what upsets you is a frightening world, or a sad world, or a violent world, or an insane world. All these attributes are given it by you. The world is meaningless in itself.

What is meaningless is neither good nor bad. Why, then should a meaningless world upset you?

If you could accept the world as meaningless and let the truth be written upon it for you, it would make you indescribably happy.

But because it is meaningless, you are impelled to write upon it what you would have it be. It is this you see in it. It is this that is meaningless in truth. Beneath your words is written the word of God.

The truth upsets you now, but when your words have been erased, you will see His/Her/It!

Lesson 11

2012-01-12T17:55:00.001-06:00

Concept: My meaningless thoughts are showing me a meaningless world.

"Today's idea introduces the concept that your thoughts determine the world you see."

January 10, 2012 - Lesson 10 - Course in Miracles

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Words from Workbook:

My thoughts do not mean anything. Today's thought can obviously serve for any thought that distresses you at any time.

Be released from all that you believe.

Exercise:
My thought about ____________ does not mean anything.

December 31: Pray the Journey Is Long

2010-12-25T18:02:00.006-06:00

As I end this year-long journey ... I am stirred by all the repeat issues that I have allowed myself to encounter ... because of the need to wait for others to change their ways and see my "right" way (what a waste of time!) ... In 2010 ... I learned to totally forgive, to accept, to grow, and wait for no one because the Spirit controls ... not me!

Overall, it has been an amazing year (2010) ... issues revisited and some mastered; and some issues will always remain unresolved ... until the Spirit within instructs my thoughts and behavior.

I pray you have been successful in your efforts and that you have another successful year loving and accepting your Authentic Self.

Per Daybook:

"The world is round and the place which may seem like the end may also be only the beginning." Ivy Baker Priest.

As Sarah wrote, remember "life as a journey. Life as a pilgrimage. Life as a garden. Life as the highest art."

Today and every day, "Ask for the Power, ask to catch the Flow, and ask to Soar," but most importantly, "never forget that all you have is all you need."

Activity:

1. Enjoy the New Year ... God has offered you another chance to find your meaning of life -- for you!

2. Compare your aspirations for 2010 with the new goals for 20ll. Which goals did you not achieve? Why? Add the uncompleted 2010 goals to the goal list for 2011, if these goals are still important to you.

3. Honor the Old Year with a farewell toast, and welcome the New Year with Thanks! "Celebrate how far you've come, how much you've learned, and the glorious person you Really are. Happy New Year!"

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 30: Ithaka

2010-12-25T17:51:00.003-06:00

Per the Daybook:

"As you set out in search Ithaka (island home of Greek hero, Odysseus)
Pray that your journey be long,
Full of adventures, full of awakenings.
Do not fear the monsters of old ...
You will not meet them in your travels
If your thoughts are exalted and remain high,
If authentic passions stir your mind, body and spirit.
You will not encounter fearful monsters
If you do not carry them within your soul,
If your soul does not set them up in front of you" -- Constantine Peter Cavafy

Activity:

1. Enjoy this day God has made for you!

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 29: A Success Unexpected in Common Hours

2010-12-25T17:39:00.004-06:00

Per the Daybook:

Henry David Thoreau wrote, "I learned this, at least, by my experiment; that if one advances confidently in the direction of dreams, and endeavors to live the life which was imagined, they will meet with a success unexpected in common hours."

Henry also wrote, "however mean your life is, meet it and live it; do not shun it and call it hard names. It is not bad ... it looks poorest when you are richest. The fault-finder will find faults even in paradise. Love your life, poor as it is. You may perhaps have some pleasant, thrilling, glorious hours, even in a poor-house."

Activity:

1. Enjoy this day God has made for you!

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 28: The Courage to Create the World You Want

2010-12-25T17:36:00.003-06:00

Per the Daybook:

Bottomline, "you can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world." -- Sheila Graham

Embed the concept: "We become authentic the same way we become courageous -- by doing it!"

Activity:

1. Enjoy this day God has made for you! Think about your plans for the new year.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 27: A Woman of Substance

2010-12-25T17:32:00.002-06:00

Per the Daybook:

"First we have to believe, and then we believe." G. C. Lichtenberg

Believe that you have the "passion, intelligence, brillance, creativity, wisdom, clarity, depth, and savvy to the find the quiet center of solace, serenity, and strength necessary to create and sustain an authentic life."

Remember, "every day is the prayer".

"An authentic life is the most personal form of worship," according to Sarah.

Activity:

1. Enjoy this day God has made for you!

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 26: Two Lives

2010-12-25T17:30:00.003-06:00

Per Daybook:

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell

Activity:

1. Watch the movie, The Natural, starring Robert Redford!

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 25: Christmas

2010-12-25T12:04:00.004-06:00

Per the Daybook:

"If, as Herod, we fill our lives with things, and again with things; if we consider ourselves so unimportant that we must fill every moment of our lives with action, when will we have the time to make the long, slow journey across the desert as did the Magi?"

"Or sit and watch the stars as did the shepherds?"

"Or brood over the coming of the child as did Mary?"

"For each of of us, there is a desert to travel. A star to discover. And a being within ourselves to bring to life!" Author Unknown

Today, Think of the life from within that you will bring to conscious life on this beautiful, wonderful, white Christmas Day!

Activity:

1. Enjoy this day God has made for you!

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 24: Here Is All I've Counted Splendid

2010-12-24T19:30:00.003-06:00

Per the Sarah in the Daybook:

"Simple Abundance is not a philosophy but reality perfected. My heart is full of gratitude; striving for simplicity in our holiday obligations has preserved my sanity; order has kept all the moving parts moving; a sense of harmony has emerged because I finally stopped long enough to balance work and family at least for the holidays; beauty surrounds me in the festive decorations through the house, now illuminated and intensified with the glow of candles and a cozy fire; and joy, the child of laughter and contentment has arrived, the guest of honor at our festive hamily feast."

Activity:

1. Repeat the Simple Abundance principles in the above paragraph.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 23: It's a Wonderful Life

2010-12-23T03:48:00.004-06:00

Time to pull out the family Christmas movies:

Per the DayBook:

"Instead of the usual "Why can't we make movies more like real life?" I think a more pertinent question is "Why can't real life be more like the movies?" ... Ernie Pyle!

Activity:

1. Select several traditional holiday movies and watch them with your love ones. Here is a list to begin with:

a. White Christmas
b. Holiday Inn
c. Christmas in Connecticut
d. The Bishop's Wife (Both Versions)
e. Miracle on 34th Street
f. A Muppet Christmas Carol
g. Its a Wonderful Life
h. Rudolph -- The Red Nose Reindeer
i. Charlie Brown Christmas

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 22: Here Comes the Light

2010-12-22T21:07:00.004-06:00

Per the DayBook:

If you are confused by the controversy surrounding the Holidays and the associated religions, get off the bandwagon and try celebrating Winter Solstice. It is usually celebrated around the 2lst and 22nd of each December -- and is considered the longest night of the year.

Winter Solstice is a way to connect with the greater Power energy found in the Universe -- the Great Mother. Winter Solstice helps to ward off depression and anxiety. It is a time to reflect, restore one's self, and renew the Spirit within by using music and dance around glowing bonfires on dark, damp, cold wintery nights.

Winter Solstice is a time to end disputes with others via cards or personal one-to-one conversations. The goal is to forgive, and share your "Love and warmth with others." And, without a doubt, you will see the Light of Love return to you.

Activity:

1. Explore the meaning of the Winter Solstice.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 21: Seasonal Soulcraft

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Today, reflect on the following words by the 12th Century German mystic Hildegard of Bigen:

"Glance at the sun.
See the moon and the stars.
Gaze at the beauty of earth's greenings.
Now, Think."

Activity:

1. Write about your winter's journey to bring rest, restoration, and reflection.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 20: The Glad Game Reconsidered

2010-12-20T13:22:00.004-06:00

Per the Daybook:

"The Glad Game is the perfect antidote when a holiday problem flares up suddenly."

The Glad Game was created in an effort to find one good thing about receiving the wrong gift or seeing the good in a negative situation.

To handle any problem effectively, today, practice being a "Pollyanna". A Pollyanna is that determined person who "finds the good in any situation."

With 4 days to go before Christmas, you know that anything can happen that could spoil Christmas cheers so be prepared with the right "Pollyanna" attitude to ensure and eliminate any obstacles.

Activity:

1. Read about the Pollyanna syndrome.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 19: A Woman of a Certain Age

2010-12-19T07:25:00.003-06:00

Ladies, are you a Crone?
Men, do you know of any Crones? If so, is it your partner?

Ok, so what is a Crone?

Per the Daybook:

A crone is an ugly, withered old woman; a hag. It is that period in life when you become very sure of your authentic self, but if not careful, you allow yourself to become less "vibrant" looking. You basically give in to not "fixin" yourself up physically.

Realize that it is the second act in life that plays so heavily in your well-being. Being a woman of a certain age can be a period of happiness, if you make an attitude adjustment to focus on Self.

Today, look at your age and decide how you want to look, feel, and act as you enter into the second stage of Life -- will you be a hag or will you become a vibrant "red-hot chanteuse?"

Activity:

1. Write in your journal what you want to look like at 55. And, how you achieve this look.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 18: A Birthday Ritual

2010-12-19T07:17:00.004-06:00

Today is Tom's Birthday! Happy Birthday and lots of love to my soul-mate!

Per the Daybook:

"Every age brings with it three hundred sixty-five Real Life lessons."

Today, brings a "good feeling that this coming year is going to be your best yet. Heaven knows you deserve it."

Activity:

1. Enjoy the day ... it the day God has given to you!

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 16: Gold-Star Days

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Ponder this from the Daybook:

"Maybe one of these days I'll be able to give myself a gold star for being ordinary, and maybe one of these days I'll give myself a gold star for being extrordinary -- for persisting.

And maybe one day I won't need to have a star at all." Sue Bender

Activity:

1. What do these words mean to you? Write your comments in your journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 15: Meditation for Women Who Read Too Much

2010-12-15T10:47:00.005-06:00

If you are like me, then, yes, you do read too much... and that is OK!

The reason I read a lot is because it has been nice to read about certain life routes that I thought I wanted to take. Through reading, I got an advance opportunity to look at the outcome of those certain routes and decisions made by others. This in essence helped influence many of my decisions for the way I wanted to structure my life, and I am glad I did.

I am still enjoying my life even now -- while I'm sick, because of knowledge acquire through reading.

So when Louise May Alcott said, "She is too fond of books, and it has turned her brain," I know exactly what she means.

You know and I know that Reading is a very powerful tool for the longevity of life!

Per the Daybook:

Reading helps you to realize your passions and go after them. Reading helps you develop and grow into your Authentic Self. So, read daily.

If you wonder how, basically, there is usually something in the context when you read that "resonates within" causing your Spirit to react.

In addition, reading allows you to escape without leaving your present environment.

Overall, a lot of life "things" are brought to your conscious awareness through the written word.

Today, assess your reading habits and ask yourself, "Am I reading enough?"

Activity:

1. Reflect on the words of Italo Cavino:

"Reading means being ready to catch a voice that makes itself heard when you least expect it, a voice that comes from an unknown source, from somewhere beyond the book, beyond the author, beyond the convention of writing: from the unsaid, from what the world has not yet said of itself and does not yet have the words to say."

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 14: Legacy of Love

2010-12-14T16:01:00.005-06:00

Per the Daybook:

No matter your status in life -- married, single, divorced, or widower, don't wait until the last minute to get into the Christmas spirit.

The Christmas spirit is for all people to feel and enjoy. Christmas provides an opportunity to relive your traditions. It is the symbols of the past that makes you feel connected and at home with yourself -- no matter the age.

Today, get in the loving, giving, and receiving mood for Christmas. Prepare to enjoy the customs that represent you and your love ones.

Activity:

1. Perform one traditional task that has always represented Christmas to you.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 13:Yes, Virginia, There is a Santa Claus

2010-12-13T09:10:00.003-06:00

A little girl named, Virginia, asked her father if Santa Claus is real. How do you think her father replied?

Per the Daybook:

Whether you believe in Christmas or not, we all want to believe that there is a "giver who rewards the good".

Each year, many of us allow our Souls to be reborn through the awakening of joy that is derived from believing in positive life, appreciation of others, and giving totally of Self to others and to one's own Self.

And, the reason you can do this during the holidays and hopefully during the entire year is because you Believe! You believe in Love which should make you believe in your self, your dreams, and all the miracles that you see occurring around you.

Stop being a skeptic whereas you erode faith in the beauty of your life!

Today, because you Believe, write Santa Claus a letter and ask for a "worldly gift". Also write to your Spirit and ask God for a "spiritual gift". In these letters ask honestly for what you want and believe you will receive it.

Activity:

1. Write the letters to Santa Claus and your Spirit.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 12: A Partridge in a Pear Tree

2010-12-12T13:01:00.004-06:00

Make sure this year that you -- Give the gift of yourself!

Per the Daybook:

On the first day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
.... The gift of my Undivided Attention

On the second day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
.... The gift of Enthusiasm

On the third day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
.... The gift of Creative Energy

On the Fourth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
.... The gift of Simple Seasonal Pleasures

On the fifth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
.... The Gift of Tenderness

On the sixth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
.... The gift of Good Cheer

On the seventh day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
.... The gift of Beauty

On the eighth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
.... The gift of Communication

On the ninth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
.... The gift of Surprise

On the tenth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
.... The gift of Wonder

On the eleventh day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
.... The gift of Peaceful Surroundings

On the twelth day of Christmas, I gave to my true loves:
.... The gift of Joy

Today, think of ways to give all of you!

Activity:

1. Give gifts that people will never forget -- happy smiles, genuine hugs, and your contented heart.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 11: Only Fourteen Shopping Days Till Christmas

2010-12-11T15:30:00.003-06:00

Per the Daybook:

"Giving presents is a talent; to know what a person wants, to know when and how to get it, to give it lovingly and well." Pamela Glenconner

Christmas Day, December 25th, is coming whether you are ready or not. Don't sweat the small stuff or the big stuff! Don't spend a lot of money that you don't have.

Enjoy and execute your holiday tradition as peaceful and joyous as you can. Today, think of ways that you can do just that.

Activity:

1. Finalize your shopping list for Christmas.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 9: The Christmas Letter

2010-12-09T10:12:00.004-06:00

Per the Daybook:

As a motivational tool, write a Christmas letter, for your eyes only that consists of two separate parts. One part is a letter written to highlight the changes in your life over the past year.

The second part of the Christmas letter consists of a separate letter written for next year describing exactly what your plans will be, and how you will execute this new plan in the new year.

The overall mission of the Christmas letter is to stir the unconscious mind and then engage it to execute the goals that you listed in your letter for the new year, which is now already written into your mind -- aware that whatever is written will transfer to body and soul.

Activity:

1. Write your Christmas Letters to renew, rejuvenate, and refresh your Spirit.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 8: Tidings of Comfort and Joy

2010-12-08T13:24:00.007-06:00

Today choose to enjoy the holidays!

Per the Daybook:

Barbara Holland stated, "Gloom we have always with us, a rank and sturdy weed, but joy requires tending."

Today, actively tend your weeds. Remember to be of good cheer for the holidays, during the holidays, and just for goodness sake!

Actively:

1. Attend a holiday musical to renew, rejuvenate, and refresh your Spirit!

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 7: Are Women Human?

2010-12-07T10:41:00.004-06:00

Wake up Women, "We are not human beings trying to be spiritual. We are Spiritual beings trying to be human." Jacquelyn Small

As a woman, do you ever forget your Divinity? If you do, Stop ... you are special and should demand to be treated as special!

Per the Daybook:

Women forget that they are spiritual beings appearing for a brief span on this planet as human."

As a spiritual being, don't sweat the small stuff. Focus on the reason you are here on earth -- find love, give love, experience the Wholeness of life.

As a spiritual being, you realize that there are no real deadlines (chronos), because as one of the Divine spirits you function on the time of eternity which is called Kairos.

With this knowledge, today recognize that everyday problems or the small stuff can not stop you. Wisdom teaches you that there is no need to worry, to move forward, and to focus on the big picture of life!

But most importantly, Wisdom teaches you as a spiritual woman, if you miss a deadline -- so be it -- because whatever you thought you would achieve based on Chronos time will be achieved later on Kairos time, which means your results will be bigger and better.

Activity:

1. Are you human or spiritual?

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 6: The Festival of Lights (Hanukkah), Kwanzaa, Christmas

2010-12-06T20:05:00.006-06:00

Per the Daybook:

As we get closer to the Wholeness of Self, we "recognize the wisdom and truth of all spiritual paths.

Miracles are from the Spirit, and they are for everyone who believes.

Two of these spiritual paths that garner special celebrations are the The Festival of Lights also known as Hanukkah (dedication) and Christmas.

Hanukkah is usually celebrated in many Jewish homes in remembrance of their struggle for religious freedom and the miracle of restoration, which is symbolize by the abundance of oil which begins the 8-day purification.

Christmas is a Christians' celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ.

Kwanzaa is an African-American cultural holiday conceived and developed by Dr. Maulana Ron Karenga. It was first celebrated on December 26, 1966. Kwanzaa is traditionally celebrated from December 26 through January 1, with each day focused on Nguzo Saba, or the seven principles.

Kwanzaa is based on the Nguzo Saba (seven guiding principles), one for each day of the observance, and is celebrated from December 26th to January 1st. The principles are as follows:

1. Umoja (OO-MO-JAH) Unity stresses the importance of togetherness for the family and the community, which is reflected in the African saying, "I am We," or "I am because We are."
2. Kujichagulia (KOO-GEE-CHA-GOO-LEE-YAH) Self-Determination requires that we define our common interests and make decisions that are in the best interest of our family and community.
3. Ujima (OO-GEE-MAH) Collective Work and Responsibility reminds us of our obligation to the past, present and future, and that we have a role to play in the community, society, and world.
4. Ujamaa (OO-JAH-MAH) Cooperative economics emphasizes our collective economic strength and encourages us to meet common needs through mutual support.
5. Nia (NEE-YAH) Purpose encourages us to look within ourselves and to set personal goals that are beneficial to the community.
6. Kuumba (KOO-OOM-BAH) Creativity makes use of our creative energies to build and maintain a strong and vibrant community.
7. Imani (EE-MAH-NEE) Faith focuses on honoring the best of our traditions, draws upon the best in ourselves, and helps us strive for a higher level of life for humankind, by affirming our self-worth and confidence in our ability to succeed and triumph in righteous struggle.

Today, allow the Authentic Self to rise during the holidays!

Activity:

1. Read about the different cultural celebrations at Christmas time.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 5: Sigh Some More, My Ladies, Sigh Some More

2010-12-05T17:18:00.005-06:00

Sometimes, you just need to sigh in order to release the pressures inside ... just let go of ... (what? -- you know!)

Per Daybook:

Go a head and sigh! Sighing is a polite way in some circles of letting go of frustrations, disappointments, and/or negative internal feelings.

Some people sigh to keep from screaming, because screaming is considered in poor taste and possessing a lack of refined, elite manners.

Sighing is taking in slowly and deeply a breath and then letting it out the same way. In this process, you are allowing an exchange to take place -- pent up feelings are forced out and they are replaced with positive creative energies. A renewing and refreshing spirit takes over.

Today, sigh and release as often as you need to without guilt, hesitation, or regret.

Activity:

1. What do you think Stanislaw Jerzy Lec meant by these words, "Most of the sighs we hear have been edited?

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 4: The Refinement of Everyday Thinking

2010-12-04T07:44:00.003-06:00

Albert Einstein, "The whole of science is nothing more than a refinement of everyday thinking."

Per the Daybook:

When you search for your Authentic Self, you learn that there is a difference in knowing about something versus thinking you know about something.

Traveling the path of Simple Abundance -- gratitude, simplicity, order, harmony, beauty, and joy -- makes it impossible to not discover the newness inside you and be changed by it. Basically, a transformation takes place within you.

In some cases, conflict sets up within as your old Self fights the new Authentic Self.

Incorporating the six principles into your lifestyle "refines your everyday thinking", and creates and releases a "huge surge of creative energy" that morphs you into a "new entity" -- a Wholeness.

All you need to add to these principles is a little passion and persistence.

The final results will be revealed when you can put authentic images to Joseph Campbell's short statements, "What you think you want, what you will to believe, what you think you can afford, what you decide to love, and what you regard yourself as bound to."

Today, you realize the power of your journey more indepthly -- the journey to seek and give gratitude, beauty, simplicity, order, harmony, and most of all joy!

Activity:

1. Relect and write on Albert Einstein's words: "Something deeply hidden had to be behind things."

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 3: No Sex Please, We're Married

2010-12-03T11:28:00.010-06:00

Many people use their hectic schedule in their married life as an excuse to not be intimate and/or not to have a fun sex life.

However, in order to have long-term togetherness, you must learn to keep the home fire burning "hot"!

Per Daybook:

"The only married women having sex as often as the magazines and marriage experts tell us we should be -- are the women on the soaps." In addition, many people allow "exhaustion and lack of privacy to make intimate moments rare."

If this is you, I suggest you change your thinking about sex.

Sex and your Art need passionate attention. Yes, you should create both with the same intensity. I personally think that once the passion within is seriously stimulated, it stirs the creative forces needed to create great sex and to create great works of art (art, dance, etc.) In other words, the passion needed for sex is the same passionate energy and drive needed to create from within to express Self!

Let go ... and feel the passion ...!

Today, assess your sex life with your partner. Create new passionate ways to bring back the luster, the joy, and the fun that you encountered at the beginning of your relationship. Bottomline, there is simply no reason to have a lackluster sex life or not create your art -- just add the passionate energy.

Activity:

1. Reflect on ways you can use to make sex in your life more than just something you see on TV or in others' lives. Write this reflection in your journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 2: Passionate Kisses

2010-12-02T13:20:00.004-06:00

"A kiss can be a comma, a question mark or an exclamation point." Mistinguett

Activity:

1. Make sure every kiss you give is passionate or is meaningful!

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

December 1: Charmed Lives

2010-11-28T11:33:00.002-06:00

Happy Birthday ... Aliyah ... Age 1! I pray that Ms.Aliyah lives a charmed life!

So what is a charmed life?

Per the Daybook:

A charmed life is one filled with Strength-Wisdom-Grace.

"Strength to meet your challenges, Wisdom to embrace real life, and the Grace to be grateful not only for what you have, but for what you've escaped."

So what did you escape?

The sorrow, humiliation, pain, and desperation that comes from the following:

* A philandering husband
* A husband who beats you
* Inability to get pregnant or the early death of a child
* A serious medical condition
* Parents who never loved you,
and more ...

If you are not in one of the above situations, be grateful for what you have. Do not admire all the glamouous lives of women and men that you have read about in the magazines who celebrate charmed lives, because what you see may not be their reality.

Today, Pray for the opportunity to choose Strength, Grace, and Wisdom for yourself!

Activity:

1. Pray and thank God or whoever your Universal Spirit is -- for all that you have. Write this pray in your journal and refer back to it on a routine basis.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 30: The Loss of Control

2010-11-28T11:28:00.004-06:00

"Life is an illusion, as stated by Mata Hari, the notorious World War I double agent in 1917." ... hmmm ... Why?

Because each of us think we control something, and we don't!

Per the DayBook:

Melanie Bettie wrote, "Whatever we try to control does have control over us and our life." Your perceived control is just an illusion.

"Illusions are the conscious mind's double agent. The Ego doesn't like to think that anybody -- especially the authentic self -- can do it better than Ego can. So Ego seduces the rational mind into believing those things that help us [you] make it through the day."

For instance, you may think you have control of a particular situation, but its just a mental double cross, especially if you are thinking you are controlling the behaviors of others. In essence, if you are not careful, you will become an addict believing that you can control the outcome of another person. It Ain't gonna happen!

Basically, you are illusionary if you believe that this time he or she will not stop drinking, drugging, and dozing. You are illusional, for example, if you believe your children are just going through a unruly phase, or that the real argument with your love one is over money when in fact it is over power.

Bottomline, today, free your mind of the illusions that you control others, because you don't. Understand that "you can never lose something [control]", because you "never had it to begin with", according to Sarah.

The only way to have a more manageable life is to stop betraying yourself with illusions of control.

Activity:

1. Read Melanie Bettie's book, The Language of Letting Go.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 29: Nightscapes

2010-11-28T11:26:00.005-06:00

"Dreams are illustrations ... from the book your soul is writing about you." Marsha Norman

Per the Daybook:

Some of our dreams are windows of and to our lives. When you get a good night's rest and write down the happenings of your dreams immediately after you wake up, you may be surprised how vivid the details are and the solutions that may surface for current situations and problems.

As we discover our authentic self, we eventually find the Holy Grail within ourselves. Today, pay attention to your dreams, because they could be a key for a better life.

Activity:

1. Do you remember what you dreamed last night? Tomorrow morning, reflect and write about the details of the prior's night dreams.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 28: Daydreams

2010-11-28T10:36:00.003-06:00

Per the Daybook:

It is ok to daydream, because our imaginations can run wild, flourish, and manifest the desired visions. Daydreams consist of reveries, visualizations and visions which could be the keys to your future.

Reverie is that experience just beyond consciousness, visualizations are your virtual realities allowing you to "scene-set" in order that you can see what could happen, and then the visions are the divine images that occur usually through spiritual or supernatural occurrences.

Today, seek divine revelations through your daydreaming. Do not be afraid to daydream.

Activity:

1. Reflect on your daydreaming thoughts. Tell why or why not you, personally, daydream. Have you manifested anything in your present life from a daydream that you have had? (In other words, are there any results from one of your daydreams.)

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 27: What Women Want

2010-11-27T22:14:00.002-06:00

Per the Daybook:

Women want ... A NAP!

A small amount of time (less than a hour) needed to nourish the soul. In essence, a simple way to fix uncomfortable moments by taking a time out! Today ... Take A Nap!

Activity:

1. Reflect on your nap habits. Tell why or why not you, personally, take naps.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 26: Rx for Harried Hearts and Frazzled Minds

2010-11-26T13:50:00.002-06:00

Today is Black Friday --- all those shopping bargains are just waiting for you to spend your money or just hang out with friends browsing and enjoying the atmosphere of the beginnings of a beautiful holiday seasons. It feels exciting -- it’s inviting, and its fun!

However, if you are one of those people who feel harried, and you feel like you are drowning in a sea of disappointment, especially during this time of year, please hold on.

Per the Daybook:

When these times come, step out on faith to find centering and comforting. Sarah used the words (mantra) of Dame Julian of Norwich (mystic from the 13th century) to find her Center:

“All shall be well,
And all shall be well,
And all manner of things shall be well.”

Today allow Spirit to calm your harried heart. Allow Spirit to make sense of that which you cannot make sense of. Come to peace with “what is”

Activity:

1. Repeat Dame Julian’s words several times for understanding within your heart.

“All shall be well,
And all shall be well,
And all manner of things shall be well.”

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 25: When You’re Sick

2010-11-26T13:48:00.001-06:00

Per the Daybook:

“Illness is the doctor to whom we pay most heed; to kindness, to knowledge, we make promises only; pain we obey.” Marcel Prolist

Today, think about how you care for yourself when you are ill. Begin taking the necessary steps to find balance and harmony to avoid onset of an illness, but if an unthinkable confronts you, Sarah suggested, taking a pause to refresh yourself spiritually. Then do what needs to be done to get well.

Learn to “cradle yourself gently with kindness and compassion”, when you are not feeling well.

Remember, one of the greatest cures for any illness is to “be loving to others”, according to Lester Levinson.

Activity:

1. Read the biography of Lester Levinson.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 24: The Blessing of Health

2010-11-26T13:47:00.002-06:00

"The first wealth is health.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

This is so true and I never realize how valuable these words are until now!

Per the Daybook:

Do not allow this time of year to entice you to focus on what you do not have going on. Focus on what you do have, your most prized possession, and that is your health.

Today, I encourage you to meditate on your health. Good Health is something you can’t buy, store, or ignore.

The great love and gift from your inner Spirit is your health.

Please do not take your health for granted. Pay attention to all the details to maintain efficiency. This includes all the necessary tools needed to invite “vitality, vigor, high energy, emotional equilibrium, mental clarity, and physical endurance” into your daily regime.

Today, pray and continue to Ask Spirit for your Good Health.

Activity:

1. Reflect on your health. When the last time you visit your doctor for a checkup? Are you doing what you need to do to be healthy?

2. Read the article in Oprah Magazine, December 2010 entitled, “A Weight off You Mind”, page 232.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 23: True Thanksgiving

2010-11-23T05:47:00.002-06:00

Per the Daybook:

Focus on your "beloved Spirit".

During this Thanksgiving season, create and cherish your moments of peace.

Give to yourself and to your love ones all the love you have stored within.

Give thanks to God for all you have which is all you need.

Don't cheat yourself or others with negative thoughts or deeds...Forgive!

Immerse yourself totally in giving praise and honor to the Spirit during this time of the year!

Activity:

1. What are you truly grateful and thankful for? Write in your journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 22: Meditation for Bad Girls

2010-11-22T13:19:00.005-06:00

Is it possible to be a "bad" girl and still be a good girl? Yes!

Per Anne Shirley, the character in the novel, Anne of Green Gables, written by Canadian author, Lucy Maude (LM) Montgomery, "It's so easy to be wicked without knowing it, isn't it?

But if you desire to be a Bad Girl, here's how -- per the Daybook:

Bad Girls sip only the best alcoholic beverages -- champagne and such. Bad girls enjoy their red lipsticks, red nails, and wear flowing free hairstyles.

Bad Girls wear Capris, cashmere, silk scarves, and sunglasses to do routine chores, and at night step out with a tuxedo on accented with "silver fox boas".

Bad Girls are in touch with their "bitch" side because they run with "dobermans". Bad Girls listen to the blues, the rock, and the roll. These ladies work all the important muscles in their bodies, always ensuring that they smell expensive, read Nietzsche, and stay abreast of current and historical events.

Bad Girls play they hands well in most endeavors, and have a "bookie, accountant, and lawyer on retainer". They also are philanthropist and never show their contributions on their tax return via deductions.

Bad Girls have fun and make a commitment to have fun. Bad Girls hire others to do the tasks they do not enjoy doing -- which is smart, if you got the money!

But most importantly, Bad Girls realize life is not a dress rehearsal -- Life is Real! Allow your last encounters on earth to be your best -- so make the best of this thing called Life, now!

Today, again, .... realize Real life is now! And, Now, you should be living Real life to the fullest!

Activity:

1. As a "Bad Girl" what would you do? Write in your journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 21: Playing Hooky

2010-11-21T12:52:00.004-06:00

Ever play hooky ...? Not me! I was always frightened that Mom or Day would catch me. In addition, I could not stand my parent looking at me as if I was a bad child ...!

Some say it is good to have played hooky once in your life, especially as an adult when the Soul needs to rest. J.M.Barrie wrote, "You must have been warned against letting the golden hours slip by. Yes, but some of them are golden only because we let them slip."

What do you think of Barrie's words?

Per the Daybook, to play hooky is:

To take a mental health day. This day is good for your mind and body. This is a way of setting up an excuse for a day to do nothing except to enjoy yourself while nourishing the Soul!

On this day you are not dodging responsibility, you are designated only to play. To do unimportant things if you want. To do personal things for yourself such as getting a manicure, pedicure, or lounging around at the spa for a massage, if you want.

On this day, you can go to the movies, hang in your favorite mall stores, tour expensive homes, meet a friend for lunch at a new restaurant, or whatever you have wanted to explore but could not find the time to do. Or, just be idle for the entire day if you desire.

In essence, the goal for today is to encourage you to care for your Soul. The goal for today is to fill-up your "hooky day" with stolen moments that motivate, stimulate, and preserve your Authentic Self!

Activity:

1. J.M.Barrie wrote, "You must have been warned against letting the golden hours slip by. Yes, but some of them are golden only because we let them slip." What do you think of Barrie's words?

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 20: Bless Be the Ties That Bind

2010-11-20T10:12:00.006-06:00

How important is family to you ... whether the family members are related biologically or not?

Jan Howard stated, "Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family, whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one."

Do you have one (a family type network) -- that you can call your own? If not, create one! You do not have to be lonely during the holidays.

Per the Daybook:

The holidays bring the feelings of wanting to see, be with, and enjoy the nostalgic memories with your family, your roots, your clan, or your village mates -- whatever you want to call your network! Start planning now to enjoy Thanksgiving and Christmas with your love ones or special family network.

Setup up something! It can be with one person or with many persons in your own network -- just setup a small event and give it your all!

This sharing event can just be coffee and treats at a local coffehouse, or lunch at an inexpensive fast food place, or a potluck gathering outdoors at a park around a picnic table. What a great opportunity to enjoy the beauty of nature during the holiday season. Remember to bring a positive attitude and lots of humor.

You know that sometimes real life can muddy the lines of communication, but don't let it. Do not allow petty situations to spoil relationships. Learn to compromise.

Also, build feelings of love by communicating regularly with your family network throughout the year by sending cards, news clippings, gifts, or other artifacts that let them know you are thinking about them.

If you can create a special or themed traditional celebration among your love ones -- your family -- your clan, then do it.

Today, reflect on the words of Simone Weil, "to be rooted is perhaps the most important and least recognized need of the human soul".

Go out of your way to Give joy to others this holiday season.

Activity:

1. Write your plan for this holiday season with your loves ones or adopted family, clan,or whatever you want to call your new friends.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 19: The Kindness of Strangers

2010-11-20T10:04:00.005-06:00

Per the DayBook:

"Whoever you are -- I have always depended on the kindness of strangers." Blanche Dubois (Tennessee Williams)

Today, pay attention to the strangers around you. It could become a celestine or angelic moment for you.

Activity:

1. Remember a chance meeting with a stranger that later blossom into something more. Write about this encounter in your journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 18: The Blessing of Friends

2010-11-18T15:25:00.003-06:00

If you have good respectful friends, be grateful.

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only this meeting that a new world is born." Anais Nin

Per the Daybook:

Cherish the friend relationship you have developed with others dearly. Friends can bring contentment, support, unconditional love and commitment to your life.

Today, think of your friends who are close. Do you let them know that you value and treasure them? If not, then do something about it!

Activity:

1. Make a list in your journal of the last time you did something nice for your friend.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 17: Weather Report - Emotional Addictions

2010-11-17T07:47:00.006-06:00

There are a lot of different types of addictions associated with food, sex, drugs, alcohol and more.

However, did you ever think that you could be an addict who is addicted to "the highs and lows of emotions? Just like the weather, you allow your moods to change constantly.

This type of addiction consists of being self-abusive to yourself and demonstrating emotional behaviors through crying fits, rages, long diatribes, or tantrums for hours. This addiction also requires you to crave personal drama all the time. Is this you?

Per the Daybook:

If this is you, then recognize that this behavior is self-abuse, and you must find the reason for this abuse of yourself. You must learn your pattern of behavior. You must learn what will set you in motion to have an outburst. You must learn to calm yourself down using positive techniques and then ask yourself why you are so upset.

You must find your internal happy zone, and learn to enter your happy zone immediately in order to avoid another unpleasant episode of emotional "drunkenism". Techniques such as working on skills that provoke humor, smiling, or simply pausing to pray, count, or breath may help. Create something that you know can change your mood immediately.

It is a difficult task to change emotional behavior, but you have to if you are destroying relationships and peace within your world. You are not weak if you admit to yourself that you have a problem. In order to correct yourself, you have to acknowledge your addiction.

Today, assess your different climates of feelings throughout the day. Make a decision as to which climate you would like to best describe you and your emotional behavior, and work toward this goal.

Activity:

1. Reflect on your emotional behaviors. Do act out your emotions in rage, crying fits, or tantrums? Or, Do you act them out in more subtle ways such as pouting, self-mutilation, or other ways? Write a response in your journal. Write a solution to this drunken-ness behavior.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 16: Riding the Big Kahuna

2010-11-16T07:17:00.005-06:00

Today allow your celestial, positive Flow to take charge of you!

Per the Daybook:

You experience Flow when you allow your passions, positive thinking, and happiness to fuel you and move at optimal speed throughout your mind and body fulfilling the inner Spirit's joys.

The Flow is sustained based upon how you handle your daily encounters and experiences.

You can tap into this Flow with your positive attitude, good memories, stimulating conversations with others, attention to details, and your belief in Joy. Joyfully "indulging your imagination brings the Big Kahuna." Basically, it is your Soul (mind) speaking to your body while your Soul listens and reacts to the needs of the Spirit.

The goal today is to activate your JOY so that the floodgates of Flow will open and spill forth "the great forces of the universe" in you, around you, and through you!

Activity:

1. In the journal, write about the Big Kahuna in your life. (Kahuna is a Hawaiian word, defined in the Pukui & Elbert (1986) as a Priest, sorcerer, magician, wizard, minister, expert in any profession.)

2. Read the book Flow:The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 15: Heaven Watching Over You

2010-11-15T10:26:00.004-06:00

Per Sophy Burnham (Author of Book of Angels):

"We all have angels guiding us ... They look after us. They heal us, touch us, comfort us with invisible warm hands ... What will bring their help? Asking. Giving Thanks!"

Today, Ask for your guiding Angel to visit you, and when the Angel appears to honor your request, give thanks!

Activity:

1. In journal, write what you will ask your guiding Angel for and why.

2. Read the biography of Sophy Burnham.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 14: Miracles

2010-11-14T17:41:00.002-06:00

"There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." Albert Einstein

Per the Daybook:

A pathway to Wholeness may be found in A Course in Miracles. The following words are the crux of the course:

"Nothing real can be threatened
Nothing unreal exists
Herein lives the peace of God"

Today, look for miracles of love. Discard fear!

Activity:

1. Reflect on the opening quote by Albert Einstein.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 13: Answered Prayers

2010-11-13T11:18:00.004-06:00

Today, Elizabeth Barrett Browning provides these words to chew on:

"God answers sharp and sudden on some prayers,
And thrusts the thing we have prayed for in our face,
A gauntlet with a gift in "it."

Per the Daybook:

"Answered prayers are scary," Julia Cameron admits in the Artist's Way. "They imply responsibility. You asked for it. Now that you've got it, what are you going to do? Why else the cautionary phrase 'watch out for what you pray for; you just might get it'?"

An answered prayer can be uncomfortable when you are held accountable for something that you thought you wanted and asked for, but when it arrived you could not handle the consequences of the prayer request once you received it.

Why? Because sometimes you pray for the wrong outcome and just did not realize it.

Examples of this include the following per Sarah:

-You asked for the perfect soul mate, instead of praying for the grace to become the woman your soul mate would be attracted to;

-You prayed to be worldly successful when what you really long for is a sense of authentic acomplishment;

-You prayed for more money, when what you need is a change in your relationship to money;

-Overall, you prayed for a particular outcome, when what you should have been praying for -- is peace of mind, no matter which outcome occurs.

Today, realize that prayers are answered always. Be careful what you are praying for.

Always ask yourself and your Spirit, if you are praying for the right outcomes so that when you receive a "NO" you understand why and move on with your life!

Activity:

1. Write in your journal about a time you prayed for something and got it, but it was not the outcome you expected.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 12: Celestine Moments

2010-11-12T10:02:00.004-06:00

Yes, you, too, have Celestine moments!

Per the Daybook:

Celestine moments are those times "when chance events occur at just the right moment," bringing forth just the right individuals or situations that suddenly send your life into a new and important direction.

Celestine moments are those coincidents, lucky happenings, fated encounters, or the aha moments that bring enlightenment to you. Many of us ignore them, but I encourage you to examine them.

Many times you may overlook these beautiful celestial moments, because you are too busy. Today, take the time to enjoy your gifts of bliss.

Per Sarah, cast a wide net today and focus on your dreams, follow those urges, honor some of your hunches, be receptive to others and their ideas, but most importantly open yourself up to Synchronicity so that you can receive the Divine power from the Spirit within.

Activity:

1. Read The Celestine Prophecy. The author is James Redfield.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 11: Amazing Grace

2010-11-11T18:32:00.005-06:00

Per Simone Weil:

"Grace fills empty spaces, but it can only enter where there is a void to receive it, and it is Grace itself which makes this void." (Really think about this!)

Per the Daybook:

Grace is the Force -- a spiritual energy field that protects and assists. Grace is Spirit's test flight; we seen to glide through the moment, the encounter, the day, without friction. We experience Real Life."

Today and every day, ask for Grace. Ask for the blessings to sail through your days with bliss. Give thanks for these blessings daily. Expect Grace to be there for you, because you have put into motion the tools (Prayer, Forgiveness, and Love) for Grace to visit and reside.

Activity:

1. Write how you feel about this statement in your journal.

"Grace is direct Divine intervention on our behalf that circumvents the laws of nature -- time, space, cause and effect, the availability of parking -- for our Highest Good."

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 10: The Gaps

2010-11-10T14:23:00.002-06:00

Activity:

1. Interprete these words by Jane Austen and write a response in your journal.

"Where so many hours have been spent in convincing myself that I am right, is there not some reason to fear I may be wrong?"

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 9: The Sacrament of the Present Moment

2010-11-10T14:22:00.001-06:00

Activity:

1. Assess your feelings. How do you cope when new challenges are presented to you? Write a response in your journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 8: Everyday Life is the Prayer

2010-11-10T14:20:00.001-06:00

Activity:

1. Write a response in your journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 7: Shepheard's Hotel

2010-11-10T13:56:00.003-06:00

It is time to put romance back into you life!

Per the Daybook:

Read J. Peterman -- considered to be the last romantic man on earth! According to Sarah, it all happened at Shepheard's Hotel in Cairo similar to what happened in Paris for the actors, Bogart and Bergman.

Hmmm!

Today, "acknowledge your romantic impulses", connect with your intimate desires, and establish those feelings with those who you cherish and who cherish you back unconditionally.

Today, fuel your passions, feed your soul, and keep yourself alive in those moments of yearning for real romance -- never give up on being a woman who believes she is "mysterious, poweful, irresistible, smart, sharp, sassy, funny, and [truly] sexy."

Activity:

1. Assess your feelings. How do you cope when new challenges are presented to you? Write a response in your journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 6: Rising to the Occasion

2010-11-10T13:38:00.004-06:00

"Rising to the occasion" are lyrics found in "No More -- Easier Said Than Done". This was my first attempt to write a blues song.

But the lyrics today apply to a different mind set ...

Per the Daybook:

Rising to the occasion is all about coping. How well do you cope with life challenges?

Learning to cope helps to enable you to see beyond problems. The ability to cope professionally helps to develop self-confidence, pull on creativity, empower one's self to learn from the experience, and boost self-esteem.

Today, accept the task of automatically rising to any occasion with style, ease, and definitely with a smile. Shock those who doubt your ability to adapt, cope, and make positive changes!

Activity:

1. Assess your feelings. How do you cope when new challenges are presented to you? Write a response in your journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 5: The Goddess Within

2010-11-10T12:56:00.006-06:00

How many times have you said, I feel, "out of kilter, spaced out, or off the wall?"

It could be -- you are experiencing a lack of centering.

Per the Daybook:

If you do not feel centered, it may be because you've lost touch with the healing power of your Vesta (Goddess of focus within).

Vesta is the Goddess that "urges women to be quiet, to sit, to gaze, to listen, to prepare delicious meals, to bring beauty into our daily round, to live through our six senses, to create a sacred haven of security and serentiy set apart from the world in order to protect all we [you] cherish."

Read about, understand the deeds and accomplishments of other persons that you have put on high pestals; however, do not worship these persons because they could be false goddesses. Stay true and honor the authenticity within. Be true to your center and the details of your Goddess within.

Remember to "not wander far away from your own sacred hearth" or centering. If you wander too far, you may not find your way back to the heat, light, and warmth of your "centered" and "Goddess-filled" Self.

Regain your focus and your center by restoring a sense of homeness to your life, today.

Activity:

1. Assess your feelings. Do you feel "out of kilter, spaced out, or off the wall?"
Why? Write a response in your journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 4: Return of the Goddess/God

2010-11-04T09:37:00.004-05:00

Are you the Goddess or God of your home?

Per the Daybook:

The Goddess or God of creative living is YOU! The beauty, the fashion, the decorating, the entertaining, and all the fulfillment is derived from the authentic you. Some see you as a miracle worker. Some wait in long lines just to listen to your words of wisdom.

You, as the Goddess or God, are lovely and your surrounding is full of perfection, aesthetics, and exquisite arrangements of all kinds.

So, today, look around and ensure that you understand and execute the directive provided these words: "a house is no home unless it contains food and fire for the mind as well as for the body" as stated by Maragret Fuller who wrote Woman in the Nineteenth Century in 1845.

Activity:

1. Assess your surroundings (home), are you living as a Goddess or God should? Write a response in your journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 3: Becoming Real

2010-11-03T10:47:00.004-05:00

Being Real can either bring lots of friends or leave you lonely, based upon my experience, which supports what ...

Margery Williams (author, Velveteen Rabbit, 1927) wrote, "Once you are Real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always."

So what is being Real?

Per the Daybook:

Being Real is being true to oneself -- "acknowledging, accepting, and appreciating" who you are. Being Real is a process that develops over time. You grow to love life and all its obstacles, "complexities, and uncertainties".

Accepting your authenticity based upon what you have learned about yourself makes you unique, creative, and full of your own wisdom. Your outcome is appreciating that which makes you know exactly what is right for your Authentic Self.

Being Real is progress using Love as your guide. Being Real is being authentic to "those who know and love you." Being Real is knowing that you may not be accepted by the masses because of the positive self-esteem and self-confidence you exude.

Today, visualize yourself as "Real" as described in the "Velveteen Rabbit."

Activity:

1. Read the Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams and write a response in your journal about the topic, "Being Real":

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 2: Caring for Your Soul

2010-11-02T11:14:00.004-05:00

"Let us imagine care of the soul, then, as an application of poetics to everyday life." -- Thomas Moore

Activity:

1. Take time to reflect on Thomas Moore's words and write a response in your journal:

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

November 1: Embracing the Ebb

2010-11-02T08:40:00.005-05:00

Per the Daybook:

"November silence sneaks up on us, catching our senses by surprise. Suddenly, as the English poet Thomas Hood sullenly observed two centuries ago, there's "no shade, no shine, no butterflies, no bees, no fruits, no flowers, no leaves, no birds."

"Outside, silvery gray shafts reveal a familiar landscape stripped of pretense. Behind closed doors, glowing amber fires shed light upon the Real. Like a woman who has found her authenticity, November's beauty radiates from within."

Today, if you are ailing, it maybe your soul that is in need of healing. You may be suffering from the "earthly ebb (period of decline) and flow of sorrow and joy based upon the seasons of emotion.

The seasons parallel to the cycle of life, death, and rebirth. Learn to not fear the darkness of life, because it shall past. Know that the light will always reappear for your embracement.

Activity:

1. Take time to reflect on Alexander Pope's words and write a response in your journal:

"The Season when to come, and when to go,
To sing, or cease to sing, we never know."

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 31: Make Room for Mystery

2010-11-02T08:13:00.003-05:00

Per the Daybook:

Halloween comes down to us from the pre-Christian Celtic festival of Samhaim, held October 31, the last autumn night before the cold and bleakness of winter."

"On this night -- considered the Celtic New Year -- the Druids believed that the supernatural world drew closer to the physical world, so human beings were more susceptible to the power and influence of the unseen."

"Magic spells could be cast more easily, divination (predicted fortunes) was more revealing, and dreams held special significance."

The "She" in you is awaken on this night. The She in you recognizes the power for good. The She in you awakens to its own Divine spirits. The She in you understands the need to dig and create an authentic Self, a soulcraft, and indulge in passions.

The She in you recognizes the power of love and a commitment is made to continue onward with the journey to the Highest Good. The mystery is unfolded on Halloween Night!

Today, realize that there is magic in every thing you touch, which resonates in you and in the lives of all the people you encounter.

Activity:

1. Take time to read Starhawk's words and write a response in your journal:

"To work magic is to weave the unseen forces into form; to soar beyond sight; to explore the uncharted dream realm of the hidden reality."

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 30: Becoming More Magnetic to Money

2010-11-02T07:58:00.003-05:00

Where do you stand right now with reference to your financial status?

Per the Daybook:

"The path to personal wealth is regular saving and sharing, controlling expenditures, living debt-free, increasing prosperity through prudent investment, protecting the bulk of your wealth from loss, owning property, establishing a future income for old age, and increasing the ability to earn money through perseverance."

A famous saying for the Babylonians regarding wealth is, "Start thy purse to fattening." Today, ask yourself, "Am I fattening my own purse with 10% of all income I earned?" If your reply is no, then get busy saving!

Activity:

1. A must read is George S. Clason's 1955 collection of parables written about the ancient laws of thrift and personal wealth, The Richest Man in Babylon.

2. Take time to answer the questions and write the responses in your journal to the following questions:

-Do you save? Why do you save? or Why do you not save some of your money?

-How do you feel about tithing? Why?

-Pretend that you put aside 10% of all your monies that has come your way over the past 5 years. How much money would you have saved in your wealth account?
-How would you feel to have this much money right now to go shopping and purchase whatever you want? How empowered do think you would feel? ... That's financial serenity!

-What item do you want right now, but don't need?
-Assess your spending habits, do you make purchases based on need or desire?
-How do you pay your bills?
-Is there a better way to pay your bills?
-Do you worry about money? and why?
-What steps will you take to solve your issues with money?
-How do you feel about money?
-Do you think you have enough?
-Does money affect your outlook on life and/or your relationships with others?

3. Read Jacob Needleman's book, Money and the Meaning of Life.

4. Read Joseph Murphy's book, The Power of your Subsconscious Mind.

4. Read Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer's book, Creating Money.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 29: Affirming Abundance

2010-10-29T23:29:00.003-05:00

Per the Daybook:

"Another step toward financial serenity is taking on a "Silent Partner" with a vested interest in your prosperity. This is done through tithing: return a portion of your wealth to the work of Spirit."

"When you tithe, you acknowledge and honor the true Source of your supply. Tithing is an ancient spiritual tradition and a universal prosperity law used by the great wealthy civilizations -- Egyptians, Babylonians, Chinese, Greeks, and Romans -- to ensure abundance."

"Spiritual law, no matter which path, tells us as we give, so shall we receive. We realize that money is a form of energy. Energy does not increase if it's horded."

"Energy must circulate freely for power to be released. When we receive an increase of money in our lives, giving away a portion of that money keeps the channels of abundance circulating freely, as Spirit intended."

Learn to tithe no matter what financial situation you are in. Remember, "Money will cease to be an issue only when we [you] relax about it."

Today relax, tithe, and watch the authentic self enjoy the abundance.

Activity:

1. Take time to answer the questions and write the responses in your journal to the following questions:

-How do you feel about tithing? Why?

-Pretend that you put aside 10% of all your monies that has come your way over the past 5 years. How much money would you have saved in your wealth account?
-How would you feel to have this much money right now to go shopping and purchase whatever you want? How empowered do think you would feel? ... That's financial serenity!

-What item do you want right now, but don't need?
-Assess your spending habits, do you make purchases based on need or desire?
-How do you pay your bills?
-Is there a better way to pay your bills?
-Do you worry about money? and why?
-What steps will you take to solve your issues with money?
-How do you feel about money?
-Do you think you have enough?
-Does money affect your outlook on life and/or your relationships with others?

2. Read Jacob Needleman's book, Money and the Meaning of Life.

3. Read Joseph Murphy's book, The Power of your Subsconscious Mind.

4. Read Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer's book, Creating Money.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 28: Financial Security -- Oops -- Serenity

2010-10-28T10:20:00.004-05:00

What is the difference between financial serenity and financial security?

Per the Daybook:

Financial security is never having to worry about money again because you've accumulated all you'll ever need.

Financial serenity is never having to worry about money again because you've discovered the true Source. Serenity starts when you accept that money is a state of mind and that abundance is a state of belief.

In other words, whether you have a lot saved or a little saved, you have peace of mind -- you have financial serenity!

When you accept this serenity thought, you secure true wealth because you learn to live per the following ways:

You ...

...live on less than what you earn
...save on a regular basis
...lay aside 10% of all money that comes your way -- place into a savings account
...visualize the flow of prosperity growing daily based upon the prior 3 steps

Today, stop seeking instant gratification. Seek the opportunity to be empowered with authentic Self-satisfaction. Remember, when you accept financial serenity, there are no guilt feelings, there are no daunting feelings because of past due debts, or a need to pawn your possessions, and/or borrow money. You have all you need readily available to you.

Activity:

1. Take time to answer the questions and write the responses in your journal to the following questions:

-Pretend that you put aside 10% of all your monies that has come your way over the past 5 years. How much money would you have saved in your wealth account?
-How would you feel to have this much money right now to go shopping and purchase whatever you want? How empowered do think you would feel? ... That's financial serenity!

-What item do you want right now, but don't need?
-Assess your spending habits, do you make purchases based on need or desire?
-How do you pay your bills?
-Is there a better way to pay your bills?
-Do you worry about money? and why?
-What steps will you take to solve your issues with money?
-How do you feel about money?
-Do you think you have enough?
-Does money affect your outlook on life and/or your relationships with others?

2. Read Jacob Needleman's book, Money and the Meaning of Life.

3. Read Joseph Murphy's book, The Power of your Subsconscious Mind.

4. Read Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer's book, Creating Money.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 27: Quieting the Wants

2010-10-27T15:10:00.005-05:00

Quieting the Wants ... easy!

Per the daybook, you can 'quieten your wants' when you acknowledge them. You can do this on a material plane or on a metaphysical plane. "The best things in life might not all come free, but the best bargains are discovered by your own personal shopper, which is your subconscious mind."

Today, remove the excessive wants and only listen to your authentic needs.

And, remember to make positive statements about your desire wants. Do not say, 'I can't afford it or them', because your "subconscious mind [will] take you at your word and see to it that you will not be in a position to purchase what you want."

Joseph Murphy explains in The Power of your Subsconscious Mind, that your mind will always follow your orders, and you will go through life experiencing lack of the things you really want.

Today, change your mindset -- say, yes, I can 'afford it', but I don't want it!

Activity:

1. Take time to answer the questions and write the responses in your journal to the following questions:

-What item do you want right now, but don't need?
-Assess your spending habits, do you make purchases based on need or desire?
-How do you pay your bills?
-Is there a better way to pay your bills?
-Do you worry about money? and why?
-What steps will you take to solve your issues with money?
-How do you feel about money?
-Do you think you have enough?
-Does money affect your outlook on life and/or your relationships with others?

2. Read Jacob Needleman's book, Money and the Meaning of Life.

3. Read Joseph Murphy's book, The Power of your Subsconscious Mind.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 26: Spending Habits

2010-10-26T07:57:00.003-05:00

Dorothy Parker commented, "I don't know much about being a millionaire, but I'll bet I'd be darling at it."

Would you be darling at being a millionaire? As a millionaire, how would your spending habits different from your present spending habits? Think about it!

Many of us, use the positive thinking mindset to over-indulge and "act as if" we are already a powerball winner. And, this way of thinking without the actual dollars in the bank will bankrupt you physically, mentally, emotionally, and without a doubt continue your downward spiral financially.

Per the Daybook:

Remember to "think before you spend". Keep track of what you spend, and if any purchase stirs up buyer's remorse, return the item, if you can. Remember, this feeling the next time you are out browsing and shopping. Do not continue to repeat the same "nasty" habit.

With all spending, ask yourself the following questions: Do I need this? Can I afford this item? Does this purchase interfere with paying a debt?

Immediate action -- practice paying for items with cash. Now is a good time to reduce the number of times that you use your debit card.

The debit card, credit card, the checkbook, and the good old-fashion store account can be very enticing at weak moments. But, it is hard for most people to depart with Cash!

Today, try using cash only along with a new mindset about your spending habits?

Activity:

1. Take time to answer the questions and write the responses in your journal to the following questions:

- Assess your spending habits, do you make purchases based on need or desire?
-How do you pay your bills?
-Is there a better way to pay your bills?
-Do you worry about money? and why?
-What steps will you take to solve your issues with money?
-How do you feel about money?
-Do you think you have enough?
-Does money affect your outlook on life and/or your relationships with others?

2. Read Jacob Needleman's book, "Money and the Meaning of Life."

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 25: On Paying Bills

2010-10-25T08:46:00.003-05:00

Per the Daybook:

Gunilla Norris wrote:

"Here are the bills again.
I always dread them a little.
They are familiar presences: first in the mail box, then in the bill drawer, now on the desk.
Services Rendered.
My life is dependent on services rendered."

Just like the ever presence of sunshine, it is time to pay bills ... and, here goes the same cycle of emotions each month ...palpitations, sick feeling, worry, and a host of other emotions that surface during this time due to lack of funds, lack of employment, lack of time, or a lack of understanding about the services rendered already to you.

Services rendered is an exchange of energy provided to you, for which you must now pay for. Simple. It is time to pay regularly and timely. So, pay your bills on time, or do not create the bills. And, while you are in this mindset -- identify and evaluate where you are spending the bulk of your money.

Is it time to setup a personal bookkeeping system -- Quickbooks, Quicken, etc.?

Today, focus on how and when you pay your bills.

Activity:

1. Take time to answer the questions and write the responses in your journal to the following questions:

-How do you pay your bills?
-Is there a better way to pay your bills?
-Do you worry about money? and why?
-What steps will you take to solve your issues with money?
-How do you feel about money?
-Do you think you have enough?
-Does money affect your outlook on life and/or your relationships with others?

2. Read Jacob Needleman's book, "Money and the Meaning of Life."

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 24: Worrying about Money

2010-10-24T19:50:00.005-05:00

I like the comment expressed by Karen Horney, "Concern should drive us into action and not into a depression."

Many times the concern drives some of us to worry. We do not allow our brains to creativity solve our financial problems. We give into worry and despair when the topic is our Money.

Per the Daybook:

Do not allow worry to consume your mind, because worry will never pay a bill. Worry becomes an obstacle that stops the positive and energetic flow of funds. Worry blocks the attraction of money to you.

Today, when you think about money, don't panic, don't worry, and don't hesitate to take action where needed. Think positive thoughts about your money and setup a system to earn whatever funds you need and to spend whatever you earn wisely.

Activity:

1. Take time to answer the questions and write the responses in your journal to the following questions:
-Do you worry about money? and why?
-What steps will you take to solve your issues with money?
-How do you feel about money?
-Do you think you have enough?
-Does money affect your outlook on life and/or your relationships with others?

2. Read Jacob Needleman's book, "Money and the Meaning of Life."

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 23: Money and the Meaning of Life

2010-10-23T10:41:00.003-05:00

Think about these words regarding money today,

Per the Daybook:

"The problem of money -- dogs our steps -- throughout the whole of our lives, exerting a pressure that, in its way, is as powerful and insistent as any other problem of human existence. And it haunts the spiritual search as well." -- Jacob Needleman

Today, from the perspective of these words by Jacob Needleman, study the role of money in your life.

Activity:

1. Take time to answer the questions and write the responses in your journal to the following questions:
-How do you feel about money?
-Do you think you have enough?
-Does money affect your outlook on life and/or your relationships with others?

2. Read Jacob Needleman's book, "Money and the Meaning of Life."

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 22: Compromises

2010-10-22T07:09:00.007-05:00

Per the Daybook:

Compromise ... learn to ... compromise!

"Compromise, if not the spice of life, is its solidity." -- Phyllis McGinley

To compromise, which is an art form, is knowing how far to bend. From any given situation know just what you need. Take the time to understand the other person's viewpoint while giving respect.

Aim to achieve a win-win agreement, but if your intuition, in the end, says no -- then do as Janis Joplin advised, "Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got!"

Activity:

1. Read the biography of Janis Joplin and write comments in your journal. Should you follow the advice of Janis Joplin considering her drug problems? Did she compromise herself in your view?

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 21: Comparisons

2010-10-20T21:42:00.007-05:00

Per the Daybook:

Don't waste your time comparing yourself with others! Because, you are on a spiritual path and there is no competition.

Every thing you want will be yours when you are ready to receive your gifts. When?

When you learn to bless the person or persons you are envious of; when you can be grateful for knowing the persons you compare yourself with; and when you can cheer your competitors onward to success.

Comparing yourself with others can block your creative flow, deplete your self-esteem, and possibly destroy your sacred Spirit within.

Your positive behavior "demonstrates the abundance of Real Life," according to Sarah.

Activity:

1. Study Marjorie Holmes comment, "Let me remember that each life must follow its own course, and that what happens to other people has absolutely nothing to do with what happens to me." Write your comments in your journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 20: Complaints

2010-10-20T07:04:00.005-05:00

Are you a complainer? If so, stop!

Per the Daybook:

Because your words are so powerful, realize, foremost, that they can change the outcome of your entire day, week, year, and, yes, your life!

Complaining reduces the amount of people who want to be around you. It confuses your Soul and damages your physical body with stress. And, it dampens the Spirit inside you and the Spirit embedded in others with information that has been heard time and time again. Unless you are actively working to resolve the complaint, Stop!

Barbara Sher, the author of Wishcraft, suggested that you should get creative with your complaining. One way is to warn persons around you that you are about to "blow off steam", and ask them to not take you personally. This planned action should ward off any bad feelings that could arise based upon what you might say or do.

In other words, Today, Stop complaining. Think about what you are about to say or do, before you say or do it! And, most of all think about the consequences of your actions, no matter how well you prepare the people around you, you can still do damage.

Activity:

1. Browse through Barbara Sher's book, Wishcraft.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 18: A Lesson from Loss

2010-10-19T07:46:00.005-05:00

How do you deal with Loss?

Per the Daybook:

"If we are alive, we cannot escape loss. Loss is a part of real life." And, you have a choice as to how you will handle your loss on any given day.

If the thought of your loss becomes so unbearable that you cave into the feelings of despair and saddness, do not beat yourself up. Take a moment to remember the person or persons that you are longing for and give them the pleasure of remember the good times that you may have had with them.

Today, cherish, honor, and respect your Loss ones to the fullest.

Activity:

1. Study these words by Anna Quindlen:
"Loss as muse. Loss as character. Loss as life."

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 19: Compliments

2010-10-19T07:28:00.003-05:00

Do you give compliments? Do you accept compliments graciously, or do you send the compliment back to the sender -- ("Do you really think so?")?

Per the Daybook:

Today begin the practice of giving others compliments. Begin the day with a least two compliments, one for yourself and one for another person.

This act of kindness to yourself and to another person can bring so much inner joy and healing. According to Sarah, "a sincere compliment can penetrate beneath even the most sophisticated masks to soothe trouble souls."

This behavior you can master so easily.

Activity:

1. When you receive a compliment, "smile and say, thank you" only.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 17: The Habit of Being

2010-10-17T20:12:00.004-05:00

Per the Daybook:

Practice the habit of being -- living in the present moment.

Discontinue the habit of just doing -- the daily routine chores and responsibilities.

Eliminate the habit of brooding -- feeling guilty, opening up old wounds, looking into the future, allowing fear to take over your mind, etc.

Today, be grateful for what you have. Show appreciation for the blessings you are receiving. Enjoy the discovery of just Being.

Activity:

1. Read about the biography of Flannery O'Connor.

2. How does the words of Henry Wadsworth Longfellow affect the habit of being?

"Let us then, be up, and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving and still pursuing,
Learn to labor and wait."

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 16: Ceremonials for Common Days

2010-10-16T09:42:00.004-05:00

Do you have a personal ritual? Do you celebrate special occasions or ceremonies that you passionately believe in? If you do, great!

Per the Daybook:

Personal rituals can help restore your sacred feelings buried within. Acknowledging these feelings designated by a "ceremony and custom give birth to beauty, [renewing] a sense of wonder to [y]our daily round."

Today, prepare wholeheartedly to celebrate your personal rituals, or to perform the tasks that bring your special joy at different times throughout the day.

Enjoy your rituals with all the bells and whistles that you like, because when you do, you will find that your heart is quietened, your soul finds balance, and the spirit becomes relaxed.

According to W.B. Yeats:
"How, but in custom and ceremony,
Are innocence and beauty born?"

Activity:

1. In your daily journal, name one of your personal rituals. What comfort or joy do you receive from this ritual?

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 15: The Quality of the Day

2010-10-15T23:30:00.003-05:00

Per the Daybook:

We have control of the quality of our days. The way you greet the day, the way you meet the day, the way you wish or cherish the day, and the way you complete each day is based upon your choice.

You can select whether or not your days will be fill with contentment or dissatisfaction by the way you begin ... each day ...

... if you positively invest in the day, you will get a positive return in your investment.

... if you check your attitude at different intervals throughout the day, you will probably have a pleasant day.

... if you disregard the weather conditions that normally make you sad, then every day can be full of sunshine.

It is not rocket science, You already know how to achieve a Spirit-filled day! So do it!

Activity:

1. In your daily journal, write how you could have changed the events of this day if you had changed your attitude, or the way you handle your events.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 14: The Ultimate Result of All Ambition

2010-10-14T10:31:00.005-05:00

Sarah said, "Mutter it under your breath" ... "To be happy at home is the ultimate result of all ambition," per Samuel Johnson.

Ask yourself, where is home? Is it a physical location to you? Or, is home in the mind, in the body, or in the spirit?

Per the Daybook:

Allow Samuel Johnson's quote to become your mantra that will "remind you that the greatest adventure of our lives is finding our way back home."

Activity:

1. Watch the movie, Wizard of OZ? Write your comments about finding home as outlined in the plot in your daily journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 13: Absolutely Fabulous

2010-10-13T20:53:00.007-05:00

Per the Daybook:

We all may have a secret person living within -- our Shadow. This shadow may be dark, revengeful, and negative, or it could be "luscious, beautiful and powerful" according to Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes.

Examples of personal shadows can be identified in Absolutely Fabulous, which is a British sitcom featuring two ladies who are opposites of one another, and both are considered vile, vain, and empty-headed in their pursuits to achieve a happy life.

Some people might identify these characters with that of Thelma and Louise from the famous "girls-just-wanna-have-fun" movie.

The antics of these ladies and others like them are judged by experts to be out-of-control, wrote Sarah. So when you become stressed and out-of-control, ground yourself by watching one of the Absolutely Fabulous episodes. Most of all stop being "afraid to follow the wisdom of her [the] heart".

Whatever "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde" shadow you have buried within you, it should only be released in small doses at a time. If not handled properly, self-medication to soothe your shadow's needs -- such habits as smoking, drinking, fear, or the use of other destructive methods could develop.

Today, think about your shadow.

Activity:

1. Write any comments in your daily journal. Are you aware of your shadow's desires or habits?

2. Memorize Henry Wadsworth Longfellow verse:

"Let us then, be up, and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving and still pursuing,
Learn to labor and wait."

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

I selected information from each day's topic that stirred my Soul and mental thoughts. For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted in this blog. However, if you would like to read her book, you may find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 12: A Tale of Two Times

2010-10-12T12:32:00.003-05:00

Time ... what do you think about Time? ... Your individual Time?

Per the Daybook:

"Once upon a time.
Up until this time.
For the time being.
Time and time again.
All in good time.
Time's up!"

"Since the dawn of Time, we've tried to understand Nature's Time. Why? In order to control."

Time per the ancient Greeks functions in a dual manner -- "Chronos and Kairos." We exist in both realms.

Chronos is "clocks, deadlines, watches, calendars, agendas, planners, schedules, beepers," cellular telephones phones, or ipads.

Kairos which is "Spirit's time' can be "transcendence, infinity, reverence, joy, passion, love, and the Sacred. It is "intimacy with the Real."

Sarah believed that "Chronos requires speed so that it won't be wasted, and Kairos requires space so that it might be savored. We "do" in Chronos, and we are allowed "to be" in Kairos.

Sarah offered these examples ... we know Kairos "when making love, when meditating or praying, when lost in music's rapture or literature's reverie, when planting, when watching over a sleeping child, when reading the Sunday comics together in bed, or when exulting in our passions." Kairos is the beauty and the divinity of life.

Today, think about connecting with the Kairos by concentrating on one project at a time, taking and making time to work on what you like, and overall slowing down your pace in life.

Activity:

1. Write any comments in your daily journal. Ponder this statement by Henry Van Dyke (sculptor, poet):

"Time is/Too slow for those who wait/Too swift for those who fear/Too long for those who grieve/Too short for those who Rejoice."

2. Memorize Henry Wadsworth Longfellow verse:

"Let us then, be up, and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving and still pursuing,
Learn to labor and wait."

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

I selected information from each day's topic that stirred my Soul and mental thoughts. For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted in this blog. However, if you would like to read her book, you may find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 11: It's Always Something

2010-10-11T11:12:00.005-05:00

Remember the Saturday Night Live character of Gilda Radner, "Roseanne Roseannadanna"? Do you remember this character's favorite words, "It's always something"?

Why should you remember these words?

Per the Daybook:

It's always something -- is just that -- real life! It is an on-going, chain, or series of events of which you have no control.

Today, you are encouraged to act on behalf of your life. Don't wait until you receive a life-threatening diagnosis such as cancer, before you allow yourself to find out how wonderful life really is.

Sarah expressed that you "never squander or surrender another precious day for whatever reason." OK!

Activity:

1. Watch a few Saturday Night Live Episodes featuring Roseanne Roseannadanna. Write any comments in your daily journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 10: Poise Wreckers

2010-10-10T23:21:00.005-05:00

In an old issue of Good Housekeeping magazine(September 1947)these words stood out, "No quality is more attractive than poise -- that deep sense of being at ease with yourself and the world."

Today, focus on your poise!

Per the Daybook:

Always be true to yourself. Sarah wrote, that the only way to become at ease with yourself is to know yourself. Avoid enduring miserable days being something that you are not by doing the following, per Sarah:

1. Never dress to impress others -- dress to express your authentic sense of style.

2. Never wear an outfit that you've never worn before to an important event.

3. If you buy something new, give it a trial run.

4. Never drastically change your hair and makeup just before meeting new people for the the first time.

5. Never leave your dressing area cluttered. To achieve order within, begin with outward order.

6. Develop impeccable grooming habits. Don't avoid close encounters due to neglect of your personal body care, because it may send a negative signal to others.

These suggestions affect poise, and "outer poise mirrors inner poise." Additionally, Sarah stressed that "moments spent in quiet contemplation to nurture our [your] inner poise should be an essential part of every woman's daily beauty ritual."

"Self possession costs us only time and self-nurturance. When we feel at ease with ourselves, we feel at ease in the world."

Activity:

1. Do you have poise? Write your comments in your daily journal.

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 9: Coping with Stress

2010-10-09T12:04:00.005-05:00

Per the Daybook, if you suffer with STRESS, follow some of these suggestions:

1. Cultivate gratitude
2. Carve out an hour a day for solitude
3. Begin and end the day with prayer, meditation, and reflection.
4. Keep it simple
5. Keep your house picked up
6. Don’t over schedule
7. Never make a promise you can’t keep
8. Allow an extra half hour for everything you do
9. Create quiet surroundings at home and at work
10. Go to bed at 9 o’clock twice a week.
11. Always carry something interesting to read
12. Breathe – deeply and often
13. Move – walk, dance, run, find a sport you enjoy
14. Drink pure spring water. Lots of it.
15. Eat only when hungry.
16. If it’s not delicious, don’t eat it
17. Be instead of do
18. Set aside one day a week for rest and renewal
19. Laugh more often
20. Luxuriate in your senses
21. Always opt for comfort
22. If you don’t love it, live without it.
23. Let Mother Nature nurture.
24. Don’t answer the telephone during dinner
25. Stop trying to please everybody
26. Start pleasing yourself
27. Stay away from negative people
28. Don’t squander precious resources: time, creative energy, emotion
29. Nurture friendships.
30. Don’t be afraid of your passion
31. Approach problems as challenges
32. Honor your aspirations.
33. Set achievable goals
34. Surrender expectations
35. Savor beauty
36. Create Boundaries
37. For every “yes” – let there be a “no”.
38. Don’t worry; be happy.
39. Remember, happiness is a living emotion
40. Care for your soul
41. Cherish your dreams
42. Express love everyday
43. Search for your authentic self until you find her

Activity:

1. Create a “Who Am I” statement. Write it in your daily journal. Once you determine who you are, what you like, and what you want to do, it will be easier to follow the suggestions above.

This IDENTIFY statement will help you establish the boundaries, guidelines, and directions with which to apply the above suggestions. For example: "No" will be easier to say and adhere to -- when asked to do something that you just do not love, like, or enjoy.

“Who Am I” statement - Sample:

“I’m Carissia, The Empress of The Rhythm ‘N the Blues who is an educated, professional, and degreed singer ministering to the Soul using The Voice to deliver the lyrics of the Spirit.”

Disclaimer:

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 8: A Passion for Beauty

2010-10-08T08:44:00.004-05:00

Have you ever thought ... All I [you] have is probably all I'll [you'll] need, but I [you] just want more -- even if I [you] can't afford it?

How did you handle the emotion? Did you give in and make the purchase? Or, did you walk away in a disappointed mood? After all the hard work of following the path, why had you allowed yourself to feel this way?

Per the DayBook:

Your passion for beauty may be rearing its desirous head. It is OK to cater to it. Don't neglect your desire for beauty. You can satisfy this hunger inexpensively and beautifully if you listen to the clues from your Spirit.

Today, allow your imagination to run wild to "home-in" on the beauty around you. Select, arrange, and place your ideal item of beauty in your surroundings (creative space, office, home, porch, etc.).

For example, if your "thing of beauty" is colorful flowers, then Sarah suggested that you go to the Farmers' Market where you can browse through an array of beautiful arrangements reasonably priced. Try it!

Activity:

1. Select an item that is beautiful to you and place it in your surroundings.

2. Memorize the words by David Henry Thoreau:

"Things do not change; we change."

3. Study the words by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow:

"Let us, then, be up and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait."

Disclaimer

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 7: Learning to Create Boundaries

2010-10-07T07:10:00.006-05:00

Today, say "No" without any guilt or shame -- it is time that you preserve you!

Per the Daybook:

If you want to be comfortable, you have to understand the importance of setting boundaries by catering to your need to express and be who you are without hesitation.

In their book, In Search of Balance: Discovering Harmony in a Changing World, John Robbins and Ann Mortifee, wrote "no is a good place to start creating boundaries. No, can be a beautiful word, every bit as beautiful as "yes."

They stressed, "Whenever we deny our need to say 'no' our self-respect diminishes. It is not only our right at certain times to say 'no'; it is our deepest responsibility."

"It is a gift to ourselves when we say 'no' to those old habits that dissipate our energy; 'no' to what robs us of our inner joy; 'no' to what distracts us from our purpose."

And, "it is a gift to others to say 'no' when their expectations do not ring true for us. For in so doing, we free them to discover more fully the truth of their own path. Saying 'no' can be liberating when it expresses our commitment to take a stand for what we believe we truly need."

Empower yourself! Create boundaries and do not be afraid to provide answers that reflect or express your best interest. Allow yourself to learn the "art of creating boundaries that protect, nurture, and sustain all we [you] cherish." You say, "thus far and no further".

If speaking up produces intense and confrontational moments complete with "tears, misunderstandings, and hurt feelings, continue to speak your heart's desire of "NO" without fear." Do not argue! Remember there is nothing to argue about -- just say "NO"!

In some cases, you may have to find a very clever, more silent way of getting your point across, but still say "NO" for your Soul's sake!

Activity:

1. Journal entry for today: Identify the people and the situations that you want to say "no" to, but have not done so. And, why you have not done so.

2. Memorize the words by David Henry Thoreau:

"Things do not change; we change."

3. Study the words by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow:

"Let us, then, be up and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait."

Disclaimer

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 6: Living in Lower Gear

2010-10-06T14:52:00.003-05:00

I like these words by Henry David Thoreau: "Things do not change; we change."

Per the Daybook:

If you are a "fast tracker", one who is shackled to a "set of standards and rules that prohibit you from leading a truly successful and happy life" whereas you are always working, traveling, and meeting deadlines with little control over your life, you may want to consider downshifting.

Downshifting is a trend that started in the late 1980s, and it "describes the emergence of a new breed of workplace trendsetters who are no longer willing to allow their work to ride roughshod over their lives."

These individuals learn to set career limits by "slowing down in order to devote more time and creative energy to the [their] families, communities, and personal needs," according to business writer Amy Saltzman.

Today, explore the various working styles to decide what is best for you.

Activity:

1. Write in your journal what your ideal working style is.

2. Memorize the words by David Henry Thoreau:

"Things do not change; we change."

3. Study the words by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow:

"Let us, then, be up and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait."

Disclaimer

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 5: Mediation as Meditation

2010-10-05T11:17:00.003-05:00

You have acknowledged that you are burned out, bummed out, ready to run away, and approaching nervous breakdown status. Cool!

Now, don't push any harder ... chill!

Per Sarah, "The time has come for mediation as meditation. Get a soothing cup of comfort and think about your ideal working day." This applies to any profession.

Now ask yourself, "If you could work in any style or setting, what would it be? What are your ideal working hours? What would be the ideal workplace surroundings? Can you visualize your ideal workplace?

Identify and evaluate the difference between your ideal workplace and your present work area or workplace setting. Do you need to make a drastic change to find inner peace with the Soul or Spirit inside? If your answer is yes, then ...

Today, recognize that you have a choice to make a change to your circumstances. Your life and the challenges encountered in your life always come with a degree of choice -- you either accept, live in denial, or do nothing.

Either way, You determine your "circumstance" in your life!

Activity:

1. Write in your journal the differences in what you visualize your work area to be as opposed to the way it is in reality. Identify the steps you could introduce to perfect your present reality.

2. Study the words by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow:

"Let us, then, be up and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait."

Disclaimer

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 4: Homework

2010-10-03T20:06:00.006-05:00

Per the Daybook:

Be careful if you decide to work at home. "It is very easy to blur the distinction between the two spheres -- home and work -- until you have only "homework", which is horrendous.

"Homework is rolling out of bed and waking up on-line, only to fall asleep at the computer sixteen hours later." Walking through the house actually focusing and doing chores and job-related work at the same time.

"Homework is a soul-less, repetitive cycle of brutality brought on by the ease and convenience of technology."

To master homework or working at home, you be extremely focused, self-determined, able to assess whether the home isolation is good for your Soul, and have a good blind-fold to bypass all the things in the house that may need to be done when you should be working.

Today, think about your working style, and which mode fits you best -- working at home or at a designated work location.

Activity:

1. If you have a desire to work at home, research the opportunities that are available in the marketplace.

2. Study the words by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow:

"Let us, then, be up and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait."

Disclaimer

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 3: Little Miss Perfect

2010-10-03T11:08:00.007-05:00

This is all you need to remember, folks!

"Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people. It will keep you cramped and insane your whole life." -- Anne Lamott!

Per the Daybook:

Do you aspire to be Miss Perfect? One who feels that nothing they do is good enough so they keep trying and trying to make the situation or project perfect, but still they never reach the exact goals they strive for?

Do you need to have every item in its place? Do you demand that every detail is executed a particular way? And, do you constantly keep working to put everything in "its" place, even when some things do not have a place! Hmmm!

Now, do you realize that this type of behavior "perfection commitment" is nothing more than you setting up a cycle of self-destruction for yourself?

Well, STOP it!

Basically, this is misery that is allowed by you based upon things you think are important. You are granting other people and mediums the power to make you miserable. This desire for perfection may be stirred by the advertising and marketing of ideas that are targeted at you that promote certain ways to look, dress, think, act, or things that you should possess.

These methods are devised to manipulate your reality. They can cause you to want to identify and be perfect all the time. But, we all know perfection 100% is impossible. So when you get the Miss Perfect urge, learn to chant ... "You're not real."

When you see something that should inspire, but in essence, diminishes your self-esteem or self-confidence... chant, "You're not real." This is an illusion.

Today, give yourself "freedom" from the image and behavior of trying to be Miss Perfect. Stop the self-destruction and accept what is! What is -- is not perfection -- it is the reality of the presence!

Allow the inner Spirit to show -- what is!

Activity:

1. Are you a Miss Perfect? Write in your journal.

2. Memorize Henry Wadsworth Longfellow's words:

"Let us, then, be up and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait."

Disclaimer

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 2: The Ultimate Seduction

2010-10-02T08:38:00.007-05:00

Pablo Picasso wrote, "It is your work in life that is the ultimate seduction."

Now, I ask you, is it? Are you seduced by your work?

Per the Daybook:

"In the past, groups "frowned on anything enjoyable, believing that God's favor could be achieved only by grueling struggle, stringent self-discipline, and backbreaking work."

However, there are people who find this description of the work to be extremely passionate, and they are turned on by their works. They find their "hard" work enjoyable. Hmmm! These people have garnered their own special title, "workaholics."

Some people believe that in order to be successful or look successful, you must be a workaholic, and so they wear this title with distinction.

Workaholics are those people who bring work home from the office, work through their vacations, use there technological devices at home, in the car, at the vacation sites. These are the people whose pleasure reading to the kids could possibly be business portfolios with a slanted view to fit the mood of the evening. And, these are the people who cannot take off from work, because the workplace will explode without them.

Sarah wrote that "when we succumb to workaholism, what's really happening is that we've lost faith in Spirit's willingness to help us achieve success. We've separated the secular from the spiritual. Asking for grace doesn't seem as practical as working around the clock."

Today, assess your work habits. If you are a workaholic, then you logically understand that burning both ends of the candles, will not last. Right? So start now to rearrange your schedule to set aside time to "Not Work" on a regular basis to avoid future "burnout" problems.

Realize that time spent resting and relaxing brings a better you, a more productive you, and most importantly, know that the continuous work-a-round-the-clock method, will not always produce the desire outcomes that you seek -- lost of loves ones in your family circle or a demotion instead of that promotion you wanted!

Remember, You must take care of the Spirit first!

Activity:

1. Are you a workaholic? Write in your journal.

2. Memorize Henry Wadsworth Longfellow's words:

"Let us, then, be up and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait."

Disclaimer

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

October 1: Recognizing Burnout Before You're Charred

2010-10-01T08:55:00.007-05:00

It is the first day of October, and it is gorgeous outside! How could anyone be burned out on a day like today, but it happens!

Per the Daybook:

"Burnout is a condition caused by unbalance: too much work or responsibility, too little time to do it, over too long a period." A person may experience emotional feelings of trap-ness, hopelessness, the inability to dream about their passions, or lack the desire to visualize any future for themselves. Quite frankly, this person simply cannot find peace and joy in anything that they do.

Could this be you?

"Burnt Offerings.
Burned to a crisp.
Burned beyond recognition.
Burned alive.
Burned out."

Do you realize that:

"My [Your] candle burns at both ends;
[And], It will not last the night." (Edna St. Vincent Millay)

So .... what can you do to relieve this situation?

First, realize the remedy is within You.

Second, STOP your forward motion. STOP in your tracks Now, or at least "SLOW your Roll" forward ... Rest for a while (time determined by you) ... and realize You have to make lifestyle changes. You will not miss any important deadline -- everything will remain in tack whether you live or die.

Now, pinpoint where your unhappiness lie.

Third, You do not have a plethora of choices. You have only one choice and that is to "rely on the [your] strength of a saner Power to restore you to Wholeness".

Today, gain Wholeness. Make a decision about that area of unhappiness that is immobilizing you. This is the only way to cure Burnout!

Activity:

1. Identify and evaluate why you are unhappy? Write in your journal.

2. Memorize Henry Wadsworth Longfellow's words:

"Let us, then, be up and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait."

Disclaimer

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

September 30: Traveling on Business

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This is the last day of September ... can you believe it! The coolness with the sunshine has taken over the days, and I'm loving it!

If you can stay close at home and enjoy this seasonal beauty, do so; but, if you have to travel, prepare in advance so that traveling is not a dreaded affair.

Per the Daybook:

About this time of year, conventions, workshops, seminars, etc. start-up thereby precipitating traveling for business reasons. Plan ahead and put in place strategies to ensure your trip is a pleasant one.

For example, in advance of travel, double check hotel reservations and the airlines regarding luggage guidelines, pack light, but always carry certain essentials that bring you comfortable in case the weather changes, snacks, in case, you can't eat when you want to, and pack hygienic items to re-freshen Self when you want.

But where ever you travel, find time to browse around the new location, have fun, find solitude, and be grateful. Perform the best you can at your work, but save time for yourself to enjoy the simple abundance of life that is before you.

Today, marvel at the beauty of your life.

Activity:

1. Memorize Henry Wadsworth Longfellow's words:

"Let us, then, be up and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait."

Disclaimer

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

September 29: Self-Nurturing on the Job

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Per the Daybook:

No matter where your work or creative space is located (in or out of the home), if you spend a significant amount of time in that location/place, then you should create an ambiance in that environment that makes you feel like the self-actualized person you truly are.

For example, if you have an office (9to5), create a comfortable space that allows you to "spread your wings" creatively and that motivates you to be so efficiently productive. Adding color, flowers, paintings, or your special furnishings can do so much to uplift and inspire your inner Self while you are there.

In addition, create a "toy" or "busy" drawer of items similar to the one you created at home. Filled this drawer with special treats, such as mints, scents or candles, books, whatever supplies, personal toiletries, or gadgets that you feel you may need at any given moment.

Bottom line, today, think about nurturing yourself in that place where you spend a considerable amount of your time. Nurturing is preparing your surroundings with items that make the execution of your duties [job] more pleasurable.

Activity:

1. What can you do to make your work or creative space more appetizing for and to you?

2. Memorize Henry Wadsworth Longfellow's words:

"Let us, then, be up and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait."

Disclaimer

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone

September 28: A Time for Everything

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Per the Daybook:

When you have several things you want to do in life, Ask for assistance. Odds are that you may not be able to have it all at the same time, but you can ask for guidance.

Who do you ask for assistance? The Heart!

Questions to ask your Heart:

"What is it I truly want right now?
What is it I truly need?
How do I get it?
How much does it cost in life's currency?"

According to Ecclesiastes 3:1, "There is a time for everything, And a season for every activity under heaven. If you are running into a few obstacles, realize it may not be your time, yet!

Understand that you may not be able to perform all things in one season, but as you accomplish one task, complete a project, or fulfill a duty; or, as you focus on one or two major "life" events at a time such as being Mom, you will very steadfastly arrive at the point where "what you want to do,[and] the way you want to do it" is at the right time or season and totally achieveable"

Today, show patience. Anna Quindlen said, "You probaby can have it all, just not all at the same time"

Activity:

1. Be honest with yourself and answer these questions and place the responses in your daily Journal:

"What is it I truly want right now?
What is it I truly need?
How do I get it?
How much does it cost in life's currency?"

2. Memorize Henry Wadsworth Longfellow's words:

"Let us, then, be up and doing
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait."

Disclaimer

This daily blog is to introduce and share Sarah Ban Breathnach's written work, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, only with friends both female and male. Although it is a laborious undertaking, this is only a blogging exercise that paraphrases and quotes directly from the Daybook in an easy, quick, and readable format.

For some topics, Sarah offered a lot more in-depth information, stories, and examples that may not be highlighted here. However, if you would like to read her book, you may be able to find this book in bargain bins at local bookstores for less than $10.

This blog is not setup for profit-making reasons.
Carissia Dixon-Malone